How to handle personal problems when you have to work

A few years ago, right around Thanksgiving, the relationship I was in ended very abruptly. I discovered a big deal-breaker between us that I was not able to handle, and he reacted very badly to my bringing it up. Physical threats were made, police were called, and the whole thing had to end right then and there. It was a … Read More

3 Words That Create Connection and Momentum

In my marketing work, I help clients choose the right words to say to their customers to get them to take action. However, I have often found that what’s really holding these leaders back are the words they say to themselves and to those closest to them. And that makes sense – the messages you hear most – even from … Read More

3 Phrases to Stop Conflict Before It Happens

Disagreements happen. Especially during an election year! It’s normal that conflict makes you uncomfortable. I would estimate at least 90% of the population would prefer their workday be completely tension-free. Maybe some challenges within the work itself, but as for interpersonal tension, most prefer ZERO. However, in close quarters, toes are bound to get stepped on. Sometimes opinions get shared by … Read More

What to do when you don’t know what to do

It just happened again to me last week. I caught myself throwing up my hands about a sticky situation regarding a family trip, and just concluding that there was no good answer. “Well, I guess we’ll just have to all be miserable for those 5 days. I don’t know what else to do!” But those words haunted me. “I don’t … Read More

How to deal with the office bully

Every office has one- the office bully. That person who intimidates and manipulates those around him- disrupting work, destroying morale, and making everyone in the office as miserable as he is. I’ve worked with bullies who were my co-workers, my employees, and my boss. It mattered little if I was the manager or the employee- an office bully bullies indiscriminately, … Read More

How to motivate yourself

Every day I talk to people who are stuck in a rut. They’re in a job with no future or in a job they hate. They’ve been running their own business for years and they still aren’t making any money. Many of the people I talk to are broke, bored, or burned out. They want to make a change but change … Read More

What to do when you had a bad day at work

It was one of those days. One of those days when I left work I was just done. One of those days that left me feeling drained and exhausted. All said and done, this bad work day is nothing more than a series of less-than-ideal experiences. My life is neither better nor worse for a bad day at work. But … Read More

When willpower isn’t enough

Have you ever set a goal you didn’t achieve? Maybe you didn’t get a job you really wanted, or didn’t make a sale you were certain you would close. Perhaps you failed to hit your exercise or weight loss goal. Yeah, me too. Here’s one thing I’ve learned. Willpower isn’t enough- ever. I’m not in control. In fact, I’m powerless … Read More

4 Habits That Sabotage Confidence

What does it take to be confident- to believe in yourself and encourage others to believe in you? On a scale of 1 to 10, how confident are you? How is your self-esteem? Even if you have a healthy self-confidence, you may be sabotaging your personal and professional life without realizing it. Could that be why you didn’t get the … Read More

When to give up (and when not to)

I’m ready to give up. I started my business 7 months ago. It was my big bold career move- to follow my dream, to start my own business, to be an entrepreneur. Since starting my business I’ve failed. A lot. A few weeks ago I thought long and hard about giving up. Let’s be real, giving up would make my life so … Read More