You can’t escape it. It’s a presidential election year. As we count down to election day, things just seem to get worse and worse. It’s the time of year that friends and family become enemies. It’s the time of year your feelings for your coworkers go from annoyance to intolerance. Tensions are running high and it’s difficult not to get … Read More
5 ways to show up for success
Woody Allen said, “eighty percent of success is showing up.” But is that really true? Well, I say success is the result of how you show up. I’ll give you an example…. The first few months of the year I was showing up in my coaching business without much success. I ticked off my to-do list every day. I attended … Read More
What to do when someone pisses you off at work
Someone is bound to piss you off at some point in your career. Even the most rational and reasonable people get angry sometimes. I certainly do. So, you get angry at your boss, a co-worker, or client. What do you do? How do you handle yourself professionally? For years I didn’t get angry. Or, well, I suppose I did and … Read More
Does It Work To Fake It ’til You Make It?
Can you “fake it ’til you make it” in life? What about your career? Fake it ’til you make it is a practice that suggests you act “as if” something is true until it is true. The idea of fake it ’til you make it is similar to positive affirmations. You repeat a positive message or statement, giving that idea your … Read More
Caged, Comfortable, Charged
Have you ever wondered, “is this all there is?” It’s a question I’ve asked myself at different stages in my life. In his book, The Charge, Brendan Burchard takes a deeper look at the three states of life, which answered the question for me. “Is this all there is?” Caged. Caged is State number 1, and most people experience it at some point. … Read More
A fun way to reconnect
Ever need to get back on the same page with someone or with a group of people? Could be your coworker, your team, or your spouse or your family. I get it- we’re all busy. And sometimes that busyness means losing touch with important people in our work and our lives. No matter who you work (or live) with we … Read More
Can you be too happy?
In addition to being able to hit rock bottom emotionally, we humans can also hit an emotional ceiling. Despite having a biological mechanism that is constantly seeking to find pleasure and avoid pain, some have also discovered an emotional mechanism that starts shutting down the pleasure if it gets overloaded. Did you hear that right? Yes, that means it is … Read More
How to gracefully say no
I grew up as a total “yes person”. Would I give you a ride home? Yes, of course. Would I water your plants across town for 10 days? Why, yes I would. Would I fill in at your camp counselor job with 45 wild kiddos eating candy in the hot sun so you can go to a baseball game with … Read More
How to handle personal problems when you have to work
A few years ago, right around Thanksgiving, the relationship I was in ended very abruptly. I discovered a big deal-breaker between us that I was not able to handle, and he reacted very badly to my bringing it up. Physical threats were made, police were called, and the whole thing had to end right then and there. It was a … Read More
3 Words That Create Connection and Momentum
In my marketing work, I help clients choose the right words to say to their customers to get them to take action. However, I have often found that what’s really holding these leaders back are the words they say to themselves and to those closest to them. And that makes sense – the messages you hear most – even from … Read More